Remember Me (2010)
Written by Will Fetters
Directed by Allen Coulter

Whatever you do in life will be insignificant, but it’s very important that you do it. Because nobody else will. Like when someone comes into your life and half of you says you’re nowhere near ready, but the other half says: make her yours forever.” ~ Tyler

I usually know somewhere within a movie whether I’m going to end up liking it, loving it, or not the opposite. Sometimes I am left apathetic and unmoved, but usually my reaction is more definitive than that. Rarely, though, am I unsure of how I felt at all. This movie though has left me completely unsure, drifting in a state of uncertainty as to whether I liked the movie, or not. There were definitely moments I enjoyed, some that I even connected with and loved, especially in the scenes between Tyler (Robert Pattinson) and his young sister, Caroline (Ruby Jerins), and some of the early scenes between Tyler and Ally (Emilie de Ravin), though often they seemed to miss connecting with each other within a scene.


There were things about this film that reminded me of Blue Valentine, a favorite movie of mine, in the way the film looked at times, and felt, too. It reminded me sometimes so much of it that I kept wanting Emilie de Ravin to be Michelle Williams (though don’t get me wrong, both are favorite actors of mine).

What left me unsatisfied was the development of certain characters. I wanted to see Ally on her own, and relating more with other characters beyond Tyler, so I could get a sense of who she was. Tyler was fully formed, and delivered perfectly by the underrated Pattinson (honestly, he is more than the vampire from Twilight). I understood him, and his many complicated relationships with his disjointed family, his roommate, his deceased brother, and Ally, but Ally herself was too much of an empty canvas.


Ally had a rich story to tell. Her Mother’s violent death, her consequential avoidance of the subway, her fractured relationship with her Father, her education, her friends (where were her friends?), her dreams, her desires, her feelings about Tyler. This is one of those “a-ha” moments when I think if this film had been written and/or directed by a woman we would have seen some of this story from her gaze. Even if this is just Tyler’s story to tell, his eyes to see through, we still could have learned more about her.

The ending? I don’t want to spoil anything, but I did not see it coming. I know that it was supposed to hit hard and in some ways it did. It did bring tears to my eyes and chills to my skin, but it also just made me angry, especially for Caroline, who really didn’t fucking need that to happen. I can handle tragic stories, I actually love them a lot of the times, but this just seemed unnecessarily cruel and also as a bit of a plot stunt. It did not feel genuine or organic to me. The story had enough emotion and depth to unravel, which sometimes it succeeding at, and sometimes it failed at. Regardless, it did not need this historical punch in the gut to make the audience feel, at least not to me.


The soundtrack was incredible, though. I was grateful for the reminder of how much I love Sigur Ros.

I’d love to hear comments and feedback from anyone whose seen this film. Let me know, okay?

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