“I came here with a load,
and it feels so much lighter,
now I’ve met you.”

Sometimes I wish there was a manual, or guidebook, for good relationships. Think about it, there are plenty of books and blogs and rants about bad relationships – how to deal with them, how to get out of them, how to recognize them, how to survive them, how to heal from the aftermath and heartache – but honestly, how many books or blogs or raves do you know about good relationships?

In my “adult” years (I use the term here very loosely) of love and relationships I have to admit to having very little experience with good relationships. I have been lied to, used, cheated on, abused, mistrusted, stalked, and quite a few not so bright and shiny things in-between and sadly I know I am not alone in this. Thing is, it does have an impact on expectation, as well as reaction, when in any relationship.

I do not like to let the past influence the present, but when dealing with the vulnerability of love, well, it is damn hard not to.

But, I am learning, and I am trying, and perhaps along the way I am writing my own guidebook to a good relationship, because for the first time in my life I believe am in one.

And, this song reminds me of it.

Green Eyes :: Coldplay