Instead of having sweet dreams about you

1. My Aunt was the country music fan in my family, and she especially loved the women of country music. She had an 8-track player and a couple of shoeboxes full of tapes. When I’d spend weeks in the Summertime at my Grandparents I would often hide out in my Aunt’s room and listen to her music. This song, and Loretta Lynn’s You Aint Woman Enough (To Take My Man) were my favorites, and a Summer later I added Dolly Parton’s Jolene to that list. Unrequited and/or heartbreak songs that hit one hell of a punch, these were.

2. I went on to love the biopic Sweet Dreams, along with Coal Miner’s Daughter, because of the music my Aunt had introduced me to. The heartbreak of both movies, and the friendship between Patsy and Loretta, were deeply moving to me.

3. This song would be particularly bittersweet to me later in life when it became part of a collection of songs that I shared with a man I once loved. He would tease me that I had a soft spot for the tear-jerker songs, and that somehow I associated them with love songs and that was a pretty screwed up way of looking at love. Perhaps he was right, though I’d argue back now that the bittersweet and tears ended up defining the love we had, in the end.

4. I think we all have that one person who haunts our dreams, and who personify the what-if’s, even if we know we should forget them completely. Close your eyes and think for a moment, there is someone, you know there is.

5. This song would have to be in my list of all-time favorite cover songs (written/recorded originally by Don Gibson).